tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14962422.post5782944933448970837..comments2023-09-20T11:39:52.182-04:00Comments on Crunchy Granola: I Wore My Wedding Dresssusanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12000470374101306070noreply@blogger.comBlogger17125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14962422.post-91348730951804743522007-11-29T12:10:00.000-05:002007-11-29T12:10:00.000-05:00There's a line between fantasy and reality? Huh. M...There's a line between fantasy and reality? Huh. Must take note. (I think people on the TV can hear me too, especially Bush et al. They just don't listen when I talk...err...yell at them)<BR/><BR/>(Also, I think maybe your parents haven't quite fully understood about the line between fantasy and reality either, but in a more hurtful way. I am bruised on your behalf. But you sound quite at peace about it. Probably something to do with recognizing that line, between what we wish our parents were and what they are.)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14962422.post-43721777934206721942007-11-26T20:56:00.000-05:002007-11-26T20:56:00.000-05:00My mother didn't come to my wedding either, though...My mother didn't come to my wedding either, though she was invited and even came up a couple months ahead of time to meet my future in-laws. I've kinda-sorta let go of that one, but really only because I have bigger complaints so I don't dwell on that one. In other words, I'm impressed with your ability to mostly let go of that pain and anger. I'm sorry that it's something you've had to work to let go of in the first place though.<BR/><BR/>All those interesting and complex people. Sigh.Scrivenerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05922358016805022637noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14962422.post-31889571176591012852007-11-26T11:36:00.000-05:002007-11-26T11:36:00.000-05:00I'm glad that your T-giving was good but so so so ...I'm glad that your T-giving was good but so so so sad that your mom & dad didn't come to your wedding.Liz Millerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09469435277058701080noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14962422.post-45473046969923265732007-11-26T05:50:00.000-05:002007-11-26T05:50:00.000-05:00O has just turned 9 and still hasn't completely cr...O has just turned 9 and still hasn't completely crossed the line from fantasy to 'reality', so you have some years of delight ahead of you.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14962422.post-22750717862655227362007-11-24T15:19:00.000-05:002007-11-24T15:19:00.000-05:00Oh, that is making me sad, the part about the dres...Oh, that is making me sad, the part about the dress.<BR/>But the rest is so, so good.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08235049965406944684noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14962422.post-18100232070478026922007-11-24T11:02:00.000-05:002007-11-24T11:02:00.000-05:00What jo(e) said. But I'm glad you are able to fin...What jo(e) said. But I'm glad you are able to find a way to value what you can about your relationship to them. Being able to even mostly let go of that must have been a huge amount of emotional work, I think.<BR/><BR/>Thinking of you all, and wishing you the least-fraught holiday celebrations possible.Phantom Scribblerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03258384756183844406noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14962422.post-40991702544543596882007-11-23T22:43:00.000-05:002007-11-23T22:43:00.000-05:00Is your family Catholic? My mom had similar proble...Is your family Catholic? My mom had similar problems in her family with second marriages. <BR/>However, amusingly to me although perhaps not to practicing Catholics, my ex's father, a priest who walked away from the priesthood, got married both first and second times in the church. Without annulment. It's all who you know, I think.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14962422.post-74123848943535574782007-11-23T20:16:00.000-05:002007-11-23T20:16:00.000-05:00I love the idea of you wearing your wedding dress....I love the idea of you wearing your wedding dress. And I'm sorry your mother wasn't there. "Wedding principles".....ah. Families can certainly be complex, can't they.<BR/><BR/>Happy Thanksgiving, a bit late!Rev Dr Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11607665272056430039noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14962422.post-41365289472444390932007-11-23T18:48:00.000-05:002007-11-23T18:48:00.000-05:00The children ran around the house and everyone was...<I>The children ran around the house and everyone was happy except for the shy cats.</I><BR/><BR/>Hey, that sounds exactly like my thanksgiving!<BR/><BR/>I'm glad you have a chance to wear your wedding dress again. I certainly never will. I should have thought about that at the time.Ianquihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03268223727887685830noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14962422.post-54530326871781977192007-11-23T18:32:00.000-05:002007-11-23T18:32:00.000-05:00Wedding Principles? That's what that kind of hurtf...Wedding Principles? That's what that kind of hurtful behavior is called? Ugh.<BR/><BR/>I'm glad you have happier memories to savor.jo(e)https://www.blogger.com/profile/01488562158252331555noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14962422.post-18980875243742702482007-11-23T15:55:00.000-05:002007-11-23T15:55:00.000-05:00Yes, they were invited, but didn't come.Politica w...Yes, they were invited, but didn't come.<BR/><BR/>Politica wore a lovely pale green silk pantsuit, and I wore a Carole Little earth tones outfit--a long deep red skirt and a very fanciful multicolored top. I wear it to teach in sometimes, and I do enjoy wearing it knowing that it was the wedding dress.<BR/><BR/>We do have photos, but they were taken by a friend who was photographing the day for us, and somehow, we didn't end up with a picture of just the two of us. She has seen a photo of us, my uncle, and my sister and brother-in-law, but I don't think she remembers that it's a wedding shot. Go figure.susanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12000470374101306070noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14962422.post-22689567181868768902007-11-23T15:31:00.000-05:002007-11-23T15:31:00.000-05:00So they were invited but didn't come?I wore a hodg...So they were invited but didn't come?<BR/><BR/>I wore a hodgepodge outfit for my wedding - and wore the pieces a lot after the wedding. I always got a kick out of telling people that some piece was part of my wedding "dress".<BR/><BR/>Happy, belated, thanksgiving.Magpiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15460136246441367993noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14962422.post-2627449539566252912007-11-23T11:02:00.000-05:002007-11-23T11:02:00.000-05:00My mother (and father) are interesting and complex...My mother (and father) are interesting and complex people: they wouldn't come to the wedding, but in daily life they are really scrupulously fair about treating Politica and me just like they treat my sister and b-i-l. If they take a trip, we all get T shirts. Same # of presents under the tree for each of us. But the wedding, no. They also didn't go to the (second) wedding of one of my (straight) cousins because the first marriage hadn't been annulled. They have Wedding Principles, I guess.susanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12000470374101306070noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14962422.post-57184342784540356532007-11-23T11:01:00.000-05:002007-11-23T11:01:00.000-05:00Ouch on the wedding dress thing. But has she neve...Ouch on the wedding dress thing. But has she never seen photos? Or maybe, like us, you decided not to have any wedding pictures taken.niobehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10685766216611639434noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14962422.post-55981211626955026042007-11-23T00:55:00.000-05:002007-11-23T00:55:00.000-05:00That sounds like a delicious celebration, and like...That sounds like a delicious celebration, and like you were able to enjoy each other's company. <BR/><BR/>I'm sorry your mom didn't go to your wedding, and hope that the experience of your family will help her to learn whatever she needs to learn about love and family and celebration -- so that when CG gets married, she can be there without reservation, regardless. Although I also hope that CG won't choose to marry a member of a biker gang. You know. *g*Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14962422.post-27369299726516351832007-11-23T00:37:00.000-05:002007-11-23T00:37:00.000-05:00(o)(o)elswherehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09682431666658202440noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14962422.post-38524784349904756672007-11-22T23:35:00.000-05:002007-11-22T23:35:00.000-05:00Happy Thanksgiving! :)Happy Thanksgiving! :)comebacknikkihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00115979340961629983noreply@blogger.com